Do you simultaneously feel like you’re TOO MUCH and somehow also NOT ENOUGH?

Perhaps you consider yourself a “WEIRDO IN SHEEP’S CLOTHING,” having learned to mask in a range of settings?

Are you looking for therapy that honors agency and POSSIBILITIES within a world on fire?

hello!

I am an AASECT certified sex therapist specializing in experiences of trauma and dissociation. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) scaffolds my approach to treatment, with ego state theories (I use terms such as “parts work”) always in action. 

All identities, genders, sexualities, and experiences are explored together with curiosity through a trauma-attuned lens. This includes for those who identify with any flavor of “neurospiciness” or “misfit” or “in recovery” or “artsy weirdo” or “hiding my kink” or even “allergic to pathologizing constructs and terms!” 

I frequently make contact with the following in sessions, in no particular order: joy, laughter, slowing down, amazement, curiosity, co-regulation, and the expansiveness of grief and celebration. My default setting is authenticity, which shows up in session with caring, creativity, puns and a nerdy sense of humor.

Prior to entering the world of psychotherapy, my labor history includes letterpress printing & artist bookmaking. Music is important to me, and I play wind instruments in community honk bands. My pronouns are primarily she/her, equally welcoming of they/them. My favorite word is “and.”

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

services

SEX THERAPY INTENSIVE

A sex therapy intensive is like a retreat for your intimate life. Especially for those who feel unseen in traditional therapy, it’s a space to expand intimacy, connection, and satisfaction. These focused, extended sessions are not just for couples and relationship constellations, but also for individuals ready to go deeper!

Your intensive can explore anything from:

  • sexuality
  • relationship styles (monogamy, polyamory, and more)
  • boundaries (check out the 8 Elements of Boundaries, below!)
  • communication & consent, particularly for:
    • variations of neurospicy, such as ADHD, “AuDHD,” experiences of synesthesia, etc
    • dissociation, including those have parts, systems, identify as plural
  • sexual interests (ranging from BDSM & kinks to “vanilla” varieties!)
  • desire discrepancy (fancy for one person is wanting sexual activities more than another is)
  • gender
  • influence of developmental and life changes (such as: perimenopause; having children; disability needs)

And you don’t need to have it figured out before your intensive, as that’s what we’ll be exploring together!

INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY

Though trauma lives in the body, so does pleasure! Blending sex therapy and trauma therapy, I offer weekly individual sessions (60 minutes) as well as EMDR Intensives (typically 90-120 minutes).

From single-incident PTSD to complex dissociation and everything in between, individual therapy is for adults identifying as female, femme, masc, and gender expansive.

I will always filter your experiences through history: your story, intergenerational patterns, intersecting identities, and the systems we navigate. We’ll explore meanings of these pasts to make sense of the present while looking toward your future.

The most significant overlap between trauma and sex therapy is CONSENT! And consent without boundaries, well, isn’t consent. The most striking boundary in therapy is that I function to serve your needs within our framework of shared consent. This creates the safety and protection where healing happens.

You have the option for in-person or telehealth, or you can dabble in a mix of both.

My direct rate is $200 per 60 minute session. I can provide you with “superbills” for out-of-network reimbursement.

I am in-network with Optum plans, which include ConnectiCare, Harvard Pilgrim, UnitedHealthcare.

consultation

Whether it’s a clinical stuck point with a specific client or a generalized interest in bringing more trauma-specific sex therapy skills into your practice, I see clinical consultation as an opportunity for vulnerability and risk-taking.

Perhaps you would like to:

  • Practice addressing anything (yes, anything!) sex-related in clinical contexts.
  • Address sexuality, gender, and sexual preferences related to dissociation and internal systems.
  • Explore your own positionalities and bias (we all have them!)
  • Practice using the Eight Elements of Boundaries.

Individual consultation: $125 per scheduled hour

Consultation for two colleagues: $200 per scheduled hour (y’all decide how you split the cost!)

BOUNDARIES PROJECT

The Eight Elements of Boundaries: Making Visible the Invisible

The Eight Elements of Boundaries (previously called the Eight Dimensions of Boundaries) is a tool highlighting the overlap of boundaries’ psychological and concrete nature.

It is a response to the phrase “I need to set boundaries!” Rather than being prescriptive (ie, an expert knows a “good” or “healthy” boundary) it opens the floor for boundaries to be as unique as the individuals enacting them. The tool emphasizes that all individuals are part of intersecting groups, communities and institutions.

This mega venn diagram is particularly helpful for neurospicy and visual folks to help clarify not only their own needs, but also to understand what others are communicating. It helps you and those with whom you are practicing boundaries get specific in your asks to one another. It offers a strategy not only for speaking, but also for listening. 

I have presented the boundaries framework at:

  • AASECT Annual Conference
  • Connecticut Women’s Consortium 
  • Oxford College of Emory University
  • Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit

860.470.6211 | anne@annethompsonlpc.com | 270 Farmington Ave, Suite 333, Farmington, CT 06032